Do we live in a evil world?

Do we live in a evil world? I don’t think so. Our bias of how the world works determines everything about how we live our lives. I choose to believe I live in a great world. I trust too much and I like everyone I know before I meet them. I leave my car door unlocked.

At times, items are stolen from my car or house. I could spend all my time worrying about how I can make my possessions more secure, and assume everyone is a thief, but instead I write it off as a one time incident. Perhaps this is naïve, but perception is reality. I live in a safe country filled with awesome people.

People like to be liked, but only if it is in context. If someone came up to me on the street and expressed how much they liked me, without having met me before, I would find it extremely weird. But men do this all the time to women. Liking a woman before you even meet her simply based on the way she looks is much more than a display of low status, objectification, and inexperience. It seems weird to the woman because there is no context or reason for your interest.

I like all men and women before I meet them. I enjoy listening to people’s life stories and I truly believe everyone is amazing. I find most people’s flaws endearing. But people only want to be liked if there is a reason for it, and most women are uncomfortable when people show interest in them because they don’t even like themselves, and assume the only reason the guy is talking to them is for their body. In many cases, they are right.

If you want to meet women, don’t try to get them to like you. If you convey that you are a leader of men and sought after by other women you will get a few women to jump all over you, but a much more genuine way to attract women is by allowing them to like themselves.

Like I said, I find everyone amazing, but the reality is, most people are insecure and become uncomfortable with what they believe to be unusual amounts of attention. They want to earn your attention, so help them earn it by finding something about them that truly fascinates you. Start the conversation by asking how they spend most of their time. This is similar to the “Where do you work” question but it does not assume they have a job. Perhaps she is a full time student on scholarship, or has inherited a large amount of money and doesn’t have to work. By simply asking how she spends most of her time it comes across as nonjudgmental and separates you from people who’s only interest in meeting someone is how they can profit from it. Asking how she spends most of her time will also likely lead into what she ENJOYS doing, and when she describes what she likes to do, ask he why she enjoys it.

When she starts to explain why she has a passion for animals, for example, listen carefully for the descriptive words she uses to describe the FEELING she gets. Use the same descriptive words yourself to create a connection, and ask what it is about those feelings she enjoys most. This will cause her to start feeling those feelings, and make her relaxed and in a good mood, later associating those feelings with what you were saying/doing.

Most guys escalate the conversation or sexual tension when the conversation is at a high point, but they often do it at one of THEIR high points. When a guy says something to make a woman laugh, or has just impressed her with something, he should not escalate. From the woman’s perspective, she has not done anything to deserve his attention. Instead, the man has just conveyed that he is seeking her approval. You are not seeking her approval, you are higher status than anyone else in the room, and are simply trying to find out if there is more to her than just an attractive face.

Escalating at your high point in the conversation is not the same as her high point, even if she is laughing or telling you how awesome you are. Remember, if you show interest in her before she has said anything to show her personality, it will appear as if you only care about her body, and will make her more insecure and worried that men don’t care about anything else. She will associate those negative feelings with you and will perceive you as a insecure approval-seeker. Instead, create a connection with her by using her emotion-triggering words, and find something about her that actually impresses you. After she shares whatever it is about her that you like, say you like it, and escalate immediately. Attractive women are extremely common, and she knows it. Attractive women instead would much rather you show interest in her because of a personality trait or passion. Beauty will fade and women know this. Not being able to keep a man is women’s biggest evolutionary fear, and if she knows you like her for more than just the way she looks, she will become more confident.

This helps you in many ways. She will start to feel good about herself and associate those feelings with you. She will also realize you like her for who she is, and she will lower her insecurities and inhibitions when she is with you. You will leave her a better person than when you found her, and she will go crazy with you in the bedroom when she learns to truly like herself for who she is. Women feel sexiest about themselves when they realize there is something about them that is turning you on. This isn’t to say you shouldn’t compliment the way a woman looks AFTER you get her. Despite what they say, most women enjoy to occasionally be objectified, just not by random people on the street who don’t like them for any other reason.

In conclusion, if you truly like someone you meet, find a reason. Not for yourself, but for them. If you can show high status, create a connection, and at the same time convey interest in them about what they like in themselves, you can attract any woman in the world.