Creating Spontenuity and Eliminating Self Limiting Beliefs

Be in the moment. Don’t imagine scenarios and how they could go wrong. This creates a limiting belief in yourself not even grounded in reality. If you approach 100 women and all of them seem to not like you, that should be a catalyst for you to change what you are doing, but imagining something will happen wrong before it does only continues to imprint your mind with limiting beliefs. This decreases your faith in yourself, and therefore, your confidence in your abilities.

You cannot know everything that is going on in other people’s relationships. Do not isolate yourself from the rest of the world by creating false realities. You don’t know everything about the relationships you have observed, you only see what you let yourself see. For instance, guys often see what they believe to be wealthy men with attractive women. But if the guy is wealthy, he might always see tall guys with attractive women. If he is tall, he might believe women only like funny guys, or some other attribute or characteristic he wishes he has more of. Instead of having a clear grasp on reality, he transposes his own limiting beliefs about himself onto his world. He creates alternate realities that further verify his limiting beliefs. Talking to a man about what women like in men says much more about the kind of man he wishes he was rather than what is really going on in the world. If he believes women only like men with money, for instance, it is much more likely that he wants more money than it is that his belief is grounded in truth. He makes his own limiting belief true for himself by putting men with different strengths than himself up on a pedestal. To change these limiting beliefs you should ask yourself a few questions:

Where will I be in 20 years if I continue to believe this false reality?

Are there any men who have attracted women without the asset I don’t have(money, height, or whatever you believe women want from men that you cannot or do not have)?

Find examples of the opposite of your limiting belief, and concentrate on those instead.

We know women like men who are spontaneous. If you can find out her days off work, it would be better to call her on those days and make plans for that day rather than planning it out ahead of time and asking her a week or so early. Have other things planned to do that day, of course, but make yourself available on the days you know a woman will be free, so you can make spontaneous plans with her. Making plans are for losers. If you want to hang out with a girl, do it immediately “What are you doing right now?” It’s always on.