Techniques and Lines to Pick up Women.

Getting women isn’t getting lucky. We all get the same amount of luck. We don’t all get the same amount of women.

Adam Carolla has often mentioned an interesting observation regarding women. The nervous looser creepy guy in the workplace cannot get away with anything. If he even looks at a woman or comments that she has a nice shirt, she will report him to human resources for sexual harassment. In contrast, the coolest guy in the office can get away with saying anything he wants. He could walk in and comment that it looks like she got laid over the weekend while slapping her on the ass, and she will just laugh and like him even more. What you say matters much less than how you are perceived by your peers. Women cannot help but be attracted to men with a higher social status. Instead of always worrying about what lines to say, become the cool guy in the office.

Take some time to make sure you like yourself. Do you consider yourself a good friend, a funny person, or just someone cool to hang around? If you do, who loses if you don’t get to know someone? They do. So do them a favor and get to know them better. You are not putting yourself at risk for rejection. If a woman rejects you, it is her that loses, and as trite as it sounds, a woman cannot reject you, she can only reject your approach. She doesn't know you enough to reject you, and your approach is easy to change.

If you are the most awesome guy in the world, you don't need any lines or techniques, but I'll share a couple anyway. The best techniques are those that show you are almost too comfortable in all situations. The following techniques are good examples:

If a woman has really good posture, mimic it by pulling your shoulders back and sitting up perfectly straight. Then tell her she really needs to work on her posture.

Give her a nickname soon after meeting her, if you can’t think of one based on something unique about her, just pick the Disney princess she most closely resembles. Sparky is also a kinda funny nickname.

Treat her like a bratty little sister. Assume you can do no wrong. If you screw something up, laugh at it, don’t get flustered or overly apologetic. Just don’t overly tease women with low self esteem or a shy personality.

Swat her with something small like a straw or newspaper, and only when there is a reason to.

Don’t give her your full attention. It shows you are too invested in the outcome. Start conversations and don’t be afraid to walk away and come back later.

Anytime you hang out with a woman, she will probably make a minor error or faux pas. Complain about her mistake in a far too serious way. Bring it back up multiple times like it is the most serious thing ever, obviously joking(or are you?). Remind her how she just ruined her chances with you.

Pretend you are the super attractive woman and she is just another pussy guy seeking your approval. Misinterpret everything she says this way.

Comment on her subtle body language cues in a teasing way. Women are used to noticing these minor details, so commenting on them yourself shows you understand. Interpret them all as interest in yourself.

Treat any emotional outburst (which is probably a test) as cute. Cute enough to be kinda funny. Many times women test men this way subconsciously to see if he can keep his composure, or if he will turn into a wussy guy. Other times it isn't even subconscious. Don't fail these tests.

Start questions with “On a scale of 1 to 10", you will find out much more about her.

Personas, Beliefs, Confidence, and Faith in Relationships

People believe what they want to believe. Beliefs are formed when an idea is reinforced either by logic, physical or empirical data, or by how the idea makes us feel. The three areas of our brain are logical, physical, and emotional. The feeling a person gets when they hear an idea usually determines if they will turn the idea into a belief. If their world makes more sense or feels better with the new idea, people are convinced that the idea must be correct. Truth changes.

speak directly to the person, not the persona. Everyone has a persona that they have constructed because of past social experiences and expectations. When you meet someone for the first time, you meet the persona they want you to meet, which is usually very different from who the person really is. Comedians are broken people, so they create jokes to deal with life. Beautiful women are the ones most concerned with how they look. Aggressive women are often very submissive in bed. Their aggression is their persona to keep from getting hurt by those around them. You cannot listen to the words women say, it is a persona. Look deeper for the reason behind what they are saying. Connect with the person and pretend you don’t even see the persona. Her persona is not real, it is a socially constructed defensive barrier.

Everyone knows women want men who have confidence, but what is confidence? Confidence literally means “With faith.” When a scientist randomly divided his lab rats into two groups, they were physically the same. He put each rat from the first group individually into a tub of water made opaque with milk. There was a ledge just underwater and out of sight that the rats could rest on if they found it, and all the rats found it before they were pulled out of the water and put back into their cages. The second group was put individually into the same tub but without the underwater support ledge to rest on. They were kept in for the same amount of time as the other rats, and then put back in their cage. The scientist then put each rat from both groups into the tub without the support. He put them in one by one and noted the time when their noses slipped underwater. (He saved all the rats before they died) The scientist found that the rats who were first placed in the tank with the underwater ledge were able to keep swimming for twice as long as the ones who were never placed in the tub with the underwater ledge.

This makes having faith much more than just an abstract concept.
Faith keeps us alive.

Topics to talk about on dates

Stay away from logic. You cannot logically convince a woman to feel attracted to you. Talk about scandal, drama, or conflict, but don’t get too serious about controversial topics like politics or religion, unless it is just to make fun of a group you know both of you disagree with. Look at other people on dates and try to analyze them and their relationship as a game of psychology (why do they like each other, etc). Become a renaissance man, and know the stories behind the things around you. Think of cocky statements as comebacks to uncomfortable situations, and ways to rephrase them in a funny way. Never complain about having bad luck, or about being single. You can get the answer to almost any question if you act a little suspicious, like she is acting suspicious and you are trying to get to the bottom of the mystery. If she has an interesting ring, hold her hand as you look at it, but don’t hold her hand too long. “Let me see your hands for a second” Lean in to kiss her, and just before you do, stop. Lean back and say “Not yet.” Two steps forward, one step back. Create anticipation, gently pulling her hair, smelling the back of her neck, or lightly kissing or biting her neck. Always end the date first, on a high point. The quality of the interaction is much more important than the length of the interaction.

Creating Spontenuity and Eliminating Self Limiting Beliefs

Be in the moment. Don’t imagine scenarios and how they could go wrong. This creates a limiting belief in yourself not even grounded in reality. If you approach 100 women and all of them seem to not like you, that should be a catalyst for you to change what you are doing, but imagining something will happen wrong before it does only continues to imprint your mind with limiting beliefs. This decreases your faith in yourself, and therefore, your confidence in your abilities.

You cannot know everything that is going on in other people’s relationships. Do not isolate yourself from the rest of the world by creating false realities. You don’t know everything about the relationships you have observed, you only see what you let yourself see. For instance, guys often see what they believe to be wealthy men with attractive women. But if the guy is wealthy, he might always see tall guys with attractive women. If he is tall, he might believe women only like funny guys, or some other attribute or characteristic he wishes he has more of. Instead of having a clear grasp on reality, he transposes his own limiting beliefs about himself onto his world. He creates alternate realities that further verify his limiting beliefs. Talking to a man about what women like in men says much more about the kind of man he wishes he was rather than what is really going on in the world. If he believes women only like men with money, for instance, it is much more likely that he wants more money than it is that his belief is grounded in truth. He makes his own limiting belief true for himself by putting men with different strengths than himself up on a pedestal. To change these limiting beliefs you should ask yourself a few questions:

Where will I be in 20 years if I continue to believe this false reality?

Are there any men who have attracted women without the asset I don’t have(money, height, or whatever you believe women want from men that you cannot or do not have)?

Find examples of the opposite of your limiting belief, and concentrate on those instead.

We know women like men who are spontaneous. If you can find out her days off work, it would be better to call her on those days and make plans for that day rather than planning it out ahead of time and asking her a week or so early. Have other things planned to do that day, of course, but make yourself available on the days you know a woman will be free, so you can make spontaneous plans with her. Making plans are for losers. If you want to hang out with a girl, do it immediately “What are you doing right now?” It’s always on.

Choice

Most men court while women choose. Men buy things for women trying to manipulate them, and it is really the woman that manipulates the guy. I don’t believe in manipulating women, but I also don’t think you should let them get away with manipulating you.

When women understand that they need you, you have choice. You are able to choose when you walk into a room which women you will let sleep with you that night, if any. Wealthy men hundreds of years ago would have this choice, because financial security was what women needed most. Now that they can support themselves, we must be able to provide them with women’s secondary security need for emotional connection. The key to seduction is not trickery as Tom Leykis suggests. The key to seduction is revealing your ability to make women feel the way they want to. Most of what I type from now on will be along the lines of how to become that person, and how to show your ability to women at will.

This is a win-win situation. In the book “Seven habits of Highly Effective People”, the author suggests only allowing one type of relationships. Win-win or no deal.

“Viruses of the Mind” By Richard Brodie suggests that most of our thoughts are not our own, they are other people’s ideas that infect our minds and cause us to think we thought of it ourselves. Your thoughts are not always your own original ideas. People do not like thinking they are not in charge of their own thoughts, but they continue to lead self destructive lives using others ideas. If a woman sees tons of women chasing you, she will start to chase you herself.

Smart Men Are The Biggest Losers

Smart men have the hardest time with women, because they are never used to being wrong about anything. They refuse to change their way of doing things because they are never wrong. My parents are like this. I remember a story my mom told me about one of her investment classes in college. She researched various stocks to invest in as one of her class assignments, and chose a stock she knew would succeed based on everything she was taught. But the market has too many variables and is unpredictable even to the greatest investors. When my mom’s stock dropped a couple points, she still “knew” she picked a good choice, and that it would go up soon. Meanwhile, the stock continued to drop. At the end of the class her stock was doing horribly, even though all the market indicators predicted it would be a success. My mom was sure she had made the right choice, and refused to admit she could be wrong. She wasn’t used to it.

Many men think the same way when it comes to women, and even though they see that what they are doing isn’t working, they don’t change anything because they are able to rationalize in their minds why what they did was right all along. They refuse to reconsider the way they think about life and social interactions and they keep the same wrong ideas that they learned by social conditioning at a young age. Their whole lives are spent hoping that a attractive woman chooses to be with them. Attractive women usually have their choice of multiple men to be with, but even financially secure men cannot get almost any woman the same way a truly attractive woman can get with almost any man. They die never knowing how to be a man with choice. A man who could choose any woman he wanted and get her.

Men used to have choice. Everything I type is intended to help men regain some of this ability they lost about half a century ago. A successful man would essentially choose any woman he wanted to marry. If she didn’t marry him, how would she be taken care of? She couldn’t live at home all her life, and women back then didn’t work for themselves. Unless she was extremely wealthy already from some other man(father, ex-husband) she had to take what she could get. Now that women are working for themselves, they do not need men’s financial stability as much as before, although they still often do want it so they don’t have to work. Remember, what women want is security, and money provides that to an extent.

Tom Leykis(Radio Show Host) picks up women based on the principal that the only thing women want is a man’s money. He believes all attractive women are taught to be gold diggers. It isn’t that attractive women are too stupid to get high paying jobs, he states, its just that ugly chicks are the only ones who have to work for themselves and get a career. Hot women can just marry wealthy men and relax for the rest of their lives, trading sex for security. Although Leykis is correct in the fact that many attractive women never do need careers, he takes it to an extreme. He believes that the best way to pick up any and all attractive women is to trick them into thinking you are more well off than you really are. After convincing the woman that you are rich, he promotes having sex with the woman and then leaving her so she can’t get her hands on your money. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t have a problem with any of this.

I don’t have any problems with this because the only women he is picking up are essentially prostitutes, only after him for his money. They deserve what they get, which is likely some sub-standard sex and no money for it. However, women still do need men. They need men for much more than purely physical needs and money. Women need men emotionally. The better method of "seducing" women is not tricking them into thinking you are someone other than who you truly are, it should be to show her that she is more secure emotionally with you. That you understand her person, and are not affected by her persona. She is secure to be herself without judgment.

The Reptile Influences Married Women to Cheat.

Marketing experts have long been fascinated with what part of the brain controls most of our buying decisions. The experts all say one thing:

The reptile always wins.

He was much taller than me, and wanted to “talk” to the girl I was at the party with. I told her to ignore him. Instead, she yelled that I would kick his ass if he didn’t leave. From the looks of things, he didn’t want to go.

I kept my eyes on his hands. Any second now one of those hands would fly toward my face, which was partly covered with some dreadlocks and a pirate hat. I knew I was probably too intoxicated and tired to stop it before it connected. As the back of my head hit the now blood-splattered wall, I wondered why the blonde girl didn’t listen. I wondered if she really needed someone hurt just to make herself feel better. I wondered if she needed two men fighting over her, because of her. The man with the groceries seemed to think she did. “There is a biological drive in women to promote competition in men”, the man said without blinking. “A female who promotes competition increases the chance that her children will have better genes, because she will have her children with only the most fit male. Even while married, the biological urge to find the most genetically fit father for her children often influences women to cheat on their partners.”

I asked the man if he was married. I was really just wondering why this man chose to talk to me on a crowded bus. Instead of responding to my question, he continued: “A recent survey of 1152 women found that women are most likely to have affairs at the peak of their sexual desire, which is when they are most likely to conceive. According to a 2 year study involving thousands of women, women are 5 times more likely to experience sexual desire while they are ovulating than while they are not. Women also report having orgasms much more frequently when they are cheating, as opposed to with their husbands, which is relevant because an intercourse orgasm allows a woman to retain 50%-90% of the sperm, while intercourse without orgasm only keeps 0%-50%. National blood test statistics state that 10% of children are not the children of the Father they believe to be theirs. When you consider that most illegitimate children are likely aborted, the actual percentages of women conceiving illegitimate children is likely much higher than the 10% that are born. Although it is not usually a conscious choice on the part of the mother to have an illegitimate child, they are controlled in essence by the reptilian part of their brain. Women are driven to find the best genetics possible to produce their children. This means that many women are using their husbands to provide for them financially, while their children are really those of other more genetically fit men.” Only after the man finished did he pause for breath. Then he looked at me expectantly, like I was supposed to counter his theory. I knew about the triune theory of the brain, and how most marketing analysts are convinced that the reptilian(or physical) part of the brain controls us all much more than we want to believe, but believing that women do nothing but manipulate men, even subconsciously, bothered me. If what he said was true, this knowledge should only be used as the catalyst to change.

Dr. Paul MacLean came up with a model of the triune brain. He describes your brain as divided into 3 parts. The reptile brain, the mammal brain, and the cortex. These three parts could also be called Physical, emotional, and logical. Each part has evolved for different reasons and has different drives. This is why your logical brain cannot make sense of some of the emotional feelings you experience. I have heard women say: “I don’t know what it is about him, I just like him.” Logic does not govern emotion or physical drive.

Power and domination, sex, fight or flight, personal space, intimidation from eye contact; all of these are governed by the reptilian third of our brain. At the deepest level your reptile brain often decides whether you should kill something, or have sex with it.

The mamillan, or emotional part of the brain is the part that hurts from rejection, that wants to love and be loved. It is the nurturing part of the brain, the part that feels for others, the part that seeks approval. This is also the part that sets value on objects like diamonds or family heirlooms, that logically have much less value than the value we assign to them.

The cortex, or logical part of the brain allows us to dissociate and look at something from another perspective. It is the part that works math and language. I would argue that women use the emotional part of their brain more than men, just as men use the logical side more.

When you combine the physical with the emotional brain, the result is art; a physical interpretation of emotion.

When you combine the physical with the logical brain you get science, which is a logical interpretation of the physical.

When you combine the logical with the emotional brain, you get psychology, a logical interpretation of the emotional.