The Two Ways

Art is a physical representation of emotion, and can be expressed in countless different ways. I propose that for some people, their very appearance is their art form. This form of art is more common for women than it is for men, spending hours a day trying to express their own idea of physical beauty through the way they dress or the makeup they put on. This often subconscious art form is often superficial, but it could also be very deep, and is art nevertheless. Whether they are aware of it or not, some of these “Shallow” people are artistic geniuses, capturing the very essence of emotion in the way they look, which with our limited language can be too difficult for most to capture in any other conventional way.

Good art is a new interpretation, or retelling, of an emotion that the viewer of the art can connect with. Yet most women simply copy other women’s styles. They modify themselves in a way to make them more evolutionarily appealing from a sexual perspective, but they lose their own uniqueness. A truly beautiful woman is one who makes herself physically appealing in a unique way.

I see many attractive women, who have good genetics and should be appealing from an evolutionary perspective, but I am now only attracted to those who have something unique about them or express a new perspective on their idea of physical beauty. Therefore, I believe many people are not only attracted to beautiful people from an evolutionary/sexual perspective; they are attracted to the emotion they get when they connect with a piece of art. Men are visual, so the art they most easily connect with is visual. Women are more verbally based, and are then more easily attracted to the emotion they receive through the way a man talks.

Deepen your perspective to appreciate all art forms. A person giving you attention solely based on the way you look is not necessarily shallow; he or she might truly connect with the emotion you are subconsciously portraying in yourself.

Even if a woman doesn’t believe her physical appearance is the most important part of her, she might feel socially influenced to “Play along” with the rest of society. Because attractive people receive attention at a young age from the opposite sex, their social status increases. It is difficult for men to be deep when they are young, so they admire a woman for the easiest and most superficial part of her. This makes it difficult for these disadvantages types of men or women to become anything other than emotionally shallow. Yet they are walking art pieces. It is both beautiful and tragic.

2 ways:

1. Beautiful in the physically/genetically/sexually/survival of your gene type of way.

2. Admiring their perspective on what their idea of beauty, or even satire on cultural expectation of beauty is, seeing their personality from the way they modify themselves.

Do we live in a evil world?

Do we live in a evil world? I don’t think so. Our bias of how the world works determines everything about how we live our lives. I choose to believe I live in a great world. I trust too much and I like everyone I know before I meet them. I leave my car door unlocked.

At times, items are stolen from my car or house. I could spend all my time worrying about how I can make my possessions more secure, and assume everyone is a thief, but instead I write it off as a one time incident. Perhaps this is naïve, but perception is reality. I live in a safe country filled with awesome people.

People like to be liked, but only if it is in context. If someone came up to me on the street and expressed how much they liked me, without having met me before, I would find it extremely weird. But men do this all the time to women. Liking a woman before you even meet her simply based on the way she looks is much more than a display of low status, objectification, and inexperience. It seems weird to the woman because there is no context or reason for your interest.

I like all men and women before I meet them. I enjoy listening to people’s life stories and I truly believe everyone is amazing. I find most people’s flaws endearing. But people only want to be liked if there is a reason for it, and most women are uncomfortable when people show interest in them because they don’t even like themselves, and assume the only reason the guy is talking to them is for their body. In many cases, they are right.

If you want to meet women, don’t try to get them to like you. If you convey that you are a leader of men and sought after by other women you will get a few women to jump all over you, but a much more genuine way to attract women is by allowing them to like themselves.

Like I said, I find everyone amazing, but the reality is, most people are insecure and become uncomfortable with what they believe to be unusual amounts of attention. They want to earn your attention, so help them earn it by finding something about them that truly fascinates you. Start the conversation by asking how they spend most of their time. This is similar to the “Where do you work” question but it does not assume they have a job. Perhaps she is a full time student on scholarship, or has inherited a large amount of money and doesn’t have to work. By simply asking how she spends most of her time it comes across as nonjudgmental and separates you from people who’s only interest in meeting someone is how they can profit from it. Asking how she spends most of her time will also likely lead into what she ENJOYS doing, and when she describes what she likes to do, ask he why she enjoys it.

When she starts to explain why she has a passion for animals, for example, listen carefully for the descriptive words she uses to describe the FEELING she gets. Use the same descriptive words yourself to create a connection, and ask what it is about those feelings she enjoys most. This will cause her to start feeling those feelings, and make her relaxed and in a good mood, later associating those feelings with what you were saying/doing.

Most guys escalate the conversation or sexual tension when the conversation is at a high point, but they often do it at one of THEIR high points. When a guy says something to make a woman laugh, or has just impressed her with something, he should not escalate. From the woman’s perspective, she has not done anything to deserve his attention. Instead, the man has just conveyed that he is seeking her approval. You are not seeking her approval, you are higher status than anyone else in the room, and are simply trying to find out if there is more to her than just an attractive face.

Escalating at your high point in the conversation is not the same as her high point, even if she is laughing or telling you how awesome you are. Remember, if you show interest in her before she has said anything to show her personality, it will appear as if you only care about her body, and will make her more insecure and worried that men don’t care about anything else. She will associate those negative feelings with you and will perceive you as a insecure approval-seeker. Instead, create a connection with her by using her emotion-triggering words, and find something about her that actually impresses you. After she shares whatever it is about her that you like, say you like it, and escalate immediately. Attractive women are extremely common, and she knows it. Attractive women instead would much rather you show interest in her because of a personality trait or passion. Beauty will fade and women know this. Not being able to keep a man is women’s biggest evolutionary fear, and if she knows you like her for more than just the way she looks, she will become more confident.

This helps you in many ways. She will start to feel good about herself and associate those feelings with you. She will also realize you like her for who she is, and she will lower her insecurities and inhibitions when she is with you. You will leave her a better person than when you found her, and she will go crazy with you in the bedroom when she learns to truly like herself for who she is. Women feel sexiest about themselves when they realize there is something about them that is turning you on. This isn’t to say you shouldn’t compliment the way a woman looks AFTER you get her. Despite what they say, most women enjoy to occasionally be objectified, just not by random people on the street who don’t like them for any other reason.

In conclusion, if you truly like someone you meet, find a reason. Not for yourself, but for them. If you can show high status, create a connection, and at the same time convey interest in them about what they like in themselves, you can attract any woman in the world.

Addiction to Emotion

One national study said that 34% of American women would absolutely consider INTENTIONALLY having a child without even a husband or boyfriend in their life. Many women believe that even if women cannot find a man to help them raise children, they should be allowed the right to have children anyway. I am not discussing the women who attempt (and often succeed) at convincing a man to marry them because they intentionally became pregnant. I am talking instead about women who do not even intend on finding a man, but go to sperm banks. Around 30% of all clients at sperm banks are single women with no prospects of finding a boyfriend.



Young women without loving fathers attempt to fulfill their need for men's love in other ways. Women without fathers are much more likely to become addicts, prostitutes, and single parents themselves. All women are addicts to emotional highs. That which traumatizes us in childhood becomes a scource of attraction to us as we reach puberty. If a child is raised without attention, respect, or love, the child will act out his or her aggression in various ways. Men often act out their insecurities with violence, which gives them a feeling of control they were never able to experience as a child growing up in a chaotic and unstable childhood. Men's fear of a lack of control leads them to be domineering and aggressive. They act out in this way to gain respect.



Women act out their insecurities in other ways, which makes sense because men and women are often insecure about different issues. While men are primarily insecure about their dominance, control, and freedom, women are insecure about their ability to keep a man. Every action a woman does can be traced to this insecurity in one form or another. The importance of finding and keeping a man ingenerally a pivital part in raising children. While raising children is a biological drive in all women, some are driven to raising children for another reason as well: Selfishness.
Young mothers raising children in fatherless households know that the environment is not optimal to raise a child, but they do it anyway. They were often themselves raised in fatherless homes, or homes in which the father was not a good role model. Because of this they seek approval from other men in their life and when the attention (for it is rarely true love that men give women, usually only lust) does not become enough to satisfy the woman's need for the emotional high of receiving love, they want to have a baby. They believe this baby will finally give them the unconditional love that they have been searching for their entire life. Instead of being concerned for what is best for the baby, women often have children for a selfish reason: To fulfill a need for love in their life.



If you are a single woman who is neither interesting, attractive, or nice enough for a man to want to marry you, you should not be passing your inferior DNA. You suck, and I don't want any of your crappy kids running around also needing the love from a man they never got as a child. If you feel you really need a child, the best option is to adopt. I believe a loving single mother can do a better job raising a child than foster homes, and instead of having a child only to fulfil the woman's need for love, adopting a child is not as selfish an act.

Men would never dream of raising a child if they were single, because men do not place as high a value on love like women do. If a single man with no prospects of marriage was feeling unfulfilled, he would be much more likely to just fly to Las Vegas and buy a few prostitutes.

I do not blame women for this, it is the men's fault who origionally did not give their daughters the unconditional fatherly love they needed, but women also need to realize that continuing the cycle of selfishness is only creating a less fulfilled society. Women have complete control over whether they choose to have children or not, men have no say in the matter.

Techniques and Lines to Pick up Women.

Getting women isn’t getting lucky. We all get the same amount of luck. We don’t all get the same amount of women.

Adam Carolla has often mentioned an interesting observation regarding women. The nervous looser creepy guy in the workplace cannot get away with anything. If he even looks at a woman or comments that she has a nice shirt, she will report him to human resources for sexual harassment. In contrast, the coolest guy in the office can get away with saying anything he wants. He could walk in and comment that it looks like she got laid over the weekend while slapping her on the ass, and she will just laugh and like him even more. What you say matters much less than how you are perceived by your peers. Women cannot help but be attracted to men with a higher social status. Instead of always worrying about what lines to say, become the cool guy in the office.

Take some time to make sure you like yourself. Do you consider yourself a good friend, a funny person, or just someone cool to hang around? If you do, who loses if you don’t get to know someone? They do. So do them a favor and get to know them better. You are not putting yourself at risk for rejection. If a woman rejects you, it is her that loses, and as trite as it sounds, a woman cannot reject you, she can only reject your approach. She doesn't know you enough to reject you, and your approach is easy to change.

If you are the most awesome guy in the world, you don't need any lines or techniques, but I'll share a couple anyway. The best techniques are those that show you are almost too comfortable in all situations. The following techniques are good examples:

If a woman has really good posture, mimic it by pulling your shoulders back and sitting up perfectly straight. Then tell her she really needs to work on her posture.

Give her a nickname soon after meeting her, if you can’t think of one based on something unique about her, just pick the Disney princess she most closely resembles. Sparky is also a kinda funny nickname.

Treat her like a bratty little sister. Assume you can do no wrong. If you screw something up, laugh at it, don’t get flustered or overly apologetic. Just don’t overly tease women with low self esteem or a shy personality.

Swat her with something small like a straw or newspaper, and only when there is a reason to.

Don’t give her your full attention. It shows you are too invested in the outcome. Start conversations and don’t be afraid to walk away and come back later.

Anytime you hang out with a woman, she will probably make a minor error or faux pas. Complain about her mistake in a far too serious way. Bring it back up multiple times like it is the most serious thing ever, obviously joking(or are you?). Remind her how she just ruined her chances with you.

Pretend you are the super attractive woman and she is just another pussy guy seeking your approval. Misinterpret everything she says this way.

Comment on her subtle body language cues in a teasing way. Women are used to noticing these minor details, so commenting on them yourself shows you understand. Interpret them all as interest in yourself.

Treat any emotional outburst (which is probably a test) as cute. Cute enough to be kinda funny. Many times women test men this way subconsciously to see if he can keep his composure, or if he will turn into a wussy guy. Other times it isn't even subconscious. Don't fail these tests.

Start questions with “On a scale of 1 to 10", you will find out much more about her.

Personas, Beliefs, Confidence, and Faith in Relationships

People believe what they want to believe. Beliefs are formed when an idea is reinforced either by logic, physical or empirical data, or by how the idea makes us feel. The three areas of our brain are logical, physical, and emotional. The feeling a person gets when they hear an idea usually determines if they will turn the idea into a belief. If their world makes more sense or feels better with the new idea, people are convinced that the idea must be correct. Truth changes.

speak directly to the person, not the persona. Everyone has a persona that they have constructed because of past social experiences and expectations. When you meet someone for the first time, you meet the persona they want you to meet, which is usually very different from who the person really is. Comedians are broken people, so they create jokes to deal with life. Beautiful women are the ones most concerned with how they look. Aggressive women are often very submissive in bed. Their aggression is their persona to keep from getting hurt by those around them. You cannot listen to the words women say, it is a persona. Look deeper for the reason behind what they are saying. Connect with the person and pretend you don’t even see the persona. Her persona is not real, it is a socially constructed defensive barrier.

Everyone knows women want men who have confidence, but what is confidence? Confidence literally means “With faith.” When a scientist randomly divided his lab rats into two groups, they were physically the same. He put each rat from the first group individually into a tub of water made opaque with milk. There was a ledge just underwater and out of sight that the rats could rest on if they found it, and all the rats found it before they were pulled out of the water and put back into their cages. The second group was put individually into the same tub but without the underwater support ledge to rest on. They were kept in for the same amount of time as the other rats, and then put back in their cage. The scientist then put each rat from both groups into the tub without the support. He put them in one by one and noted the time when their noses slipped underwater. (He saved all the rats before they died) The scientist found that the rats who were first placed in the tank with the underwater ledge were able to keep swimming for twice as long as the ones who were never placed in the tub with the underwater ledge.

This makes having faith much more than just an abstract concept.
Faith keeps us alive.

Topics to talk about on dates

Stay away from logic. You cannot logically convince a woman to feel attracted to you. Talk about scandal, drama, or conflict, but don’t get too serious about controversial topics like politics or religion, unless it is just to make fun of a group you know both of you disagree with. Look at other people on dates and try to analyze them and their relationship as a game of psychology (why do they like each other, etc). Become a renaissance man, and know the stories behind the things around you. Think of cocky statements as comebacks to uncomfortable situations, and ways to rephrase them in a funny way. Never complain about having bad luck, or about being single. You can get the answer to almost any question if you act a little suspicious, like she is acting suspicious and you are trying to get to the bottom of the mystery. If she has an interesting ring, hold her hand as you look at it, but don’t hold her hand too long. “Let me see your hands for a second” Lean in to kiss her, and just before you do, stop. Lean back and say “Not yet.” Two steps forward, one step back. Create anticipation, gently pulling her hair, smelling the back of her neck, or lightly kissing or biting her neck. Always end the date first, on a high point. The quality of the interaction is much more important than the length of the interaction.

Creating Spontenuity and Eliminating Self Limiting Beliefs

Be in the moment. Don’t imagine scenarios and how they could go wrong. This creates a limiting belief in yourself not even grounded in reality. If you approach 100 women and all of them seem to not like you, that should be a catalyst for you to change what you are doing, but imagining something will happen wrong before it does only continues to imprint your mind with limiting beliefs. This decreases your faith in yourself, and therefore, your confidence in your abilities.

You cannot know everything that is going on in other people’s relationships. Do not isolate yourself from the rest of the world by creating false realities. You don’t know everything about the relationships you have observed, you only see what you let yourself see. For instance, guys often see what they believe to be wealthy men with attractive women. But if the guy is wealthy, he might always see tall guys with attractive women. If he is tall, he might believe women only like funny guys, or some other attribute or characteristic he wishes he has more of. Instead of having a clear grasp on reality, he transposes his own limiting beliefs about himself onto his world. He creates alternate realities that further verify his limiting beliefs. Talking to a man about what women like in men says much more about the kind of man he wishes he was rather than what is really going on in the world. If he believes women only like men with money, for instance, it is much more likely that he wants more money than it is that his belief is grounded in truth. He makes his own limiting belief true for himself by putting men with different strengths than himself up on a pedestal. To change these limiting beliefs you should ask yourself a few questions:

Where will I be in 20 years if I continue to believe this false reality?

Are there any men who have attracted women without the asset I don’t have(money, height, or whatever you believe women want from men that you cannot or do not have)?

Find examples of the opposite of your limiting belief, and concentrate on those instead.

We know women like men who are spontaneous. If you can find out her days off work, it would be better to call her on those days and make plans for that day rather than planning it out ahead of time and asking her a week or so early. Have other things planned to do that day, of course, but make yourself available on the days you know a woman will be free, so you can make spontaneous plans with her. Making plans are for losers. If you want to hang out with a girl, do it immediately “What are you doing right now?” It’s always on.

Choice

Most men court while women choose. Men buy things for women trying to manipulate them, and it is really the woman that manipulates the guy. I don’t believe in manipulating women, but I also don’t think you should let them get away with manipulating you.

When women understand that they need you, you have choice. You are able to choose when you walk into a room which women you will let sleep with you that night, if any. Wealthy men hundreds of years ago would have this choice, because financial security was what women needed most. Now that they can support themselves, we must be able to provide them with women’s secondary security need for emotional connection. The key to seduction is not trickery as Tom Leykis suggests. The key to seduction is revealing your ability to make women feel the way they want to. Most of what I type from now on will be along the lines of how to become that person, and how to show your ability to women at will.

This is a win-win situation. In the book “Seven habits of Highly Effective People”, the author suggests only allowing one type of relationships. Win-win or no deal.

“Viruses of the Mind” By Richard Brodie suggests that most of our thoughts are not our own, they are other people’s ideas that infect our minds and cause us to think we thought of it ourselves. Your thoughts are not always your own original ideas. People do not like thinking they are not in charge of their own thoughts, but they continue to lead self destructive lives using others ideas. If a woman sees tons of women chasing you, she will start to chase you herself.

Smart Men Are The Biggest Losers

Smart men have the hardest time with women, because they are never used to being wrong about anything. They refuse to change their way of doing things because they are never wrong. My parents are like this. I remember a story my mom told me about one of her investment classes in college. She researched various stocks to invest in as one of her class assignments, and chose a stock she knew would succeed based on everything she was taught. But the market has too many variables and is unpredictable even to the greatest investors. When my mom’s stock dropped a couple points, she still “knew” she picked a good choice, and that it would go up soon. Meanwhile, the stock continued to drop. At the end of the class her stock was doing horribly, even though all the market indicators predicted it would be a success. My mom was sure she had made the right choice, and refused to admit she could be wrong. She wasn’t used to it.

Many men think the same way when it comes to women, and even though they see that what they are doing isn’t working, they don’t change anything because they are able to rationalize in their minds why what they did was right all along. They refuse to reconsider the way they think about life and social interactions and they keep the same wrong ideas that they learned by social conditioning at a young age. Their whole lives are spent hoping that a attractive woman chooses to be with them. Attractive women usually have their choice of multiple men to be with, but even financially secure men cannot get almost any woman the same way a truly attractive woman can get with almost any man. They die never knowing how to be a man with choice. A man who could choose any woman he wanted and get her.

Men used to have choice. Everything I type is intended to help men regain some of this ability they lost about half a century ago. A successful man would essentially choose any woman he wanted to marry. If she didn’t marry him, how would she be taken care of? She couldn’t live at home all her life, and women back then didn’t work for themselves. Unless she was extremely wealthy already from some other man(father, ex-husband) she had to take what she could get. Now that women are working for themselves, they do not need men’s financial stability as much as before, although they still often do want it so they don’t have to work. Remember, what women want is security, and money provides that to an extent.

Tom Leykis(Radio Show Host) picks up women based on the principal that the only thing women want is a man’s money. He believes all attractive women are taught to be gold diggers. It isn’t that attractive women are too stupid to get high paying jobs, he states, its just that ugly chicks are the only ones who have to work for themselves and get a career. Hot women can just marry wealthy men and relax for the rest of their lives, trading sex for security. Although Leykis is correct in the fact that many attractive women never do need careers, he takes it to an extreme. He believes that the best way to pick up any and all attractive women is to trick them into thinking you are more well off than you really are. After convincing the woman that you are rich, he promotes having sex with the woman and then leaving her so she can’t get her hands on your money. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t have a problem with any of this.

I don’t have any problems with this because the only women he is picking up are essentially prostitutes, only after him for his money. They deserve what they get, which is likely some sub-standard sex and no money for it. However, women still do need men. They need men for much more than purely physical needs and money. Women need men emotionally. The better method of "seducing" women is not tricking them into thinking you are someone other than who you truly are, it should be to show her that she is more secure emotionally with you. That you understand her person, and are not affected by her persona. She is secure to be herself without judgment.

The Reptile Influences Married Women to Cheat.

Marketing experts have long been fascinated with what part of the brain controls most of our buying decisions. The experts all say one thing:

The reptile always wins.

He was much taller than me, and wanted to “talk” to the girl I was at the party with. I told her to ignore him. Instead, she yelled that I would kick his ass if he didn’t leave. From the looks of things, he didn’t want to go.

I kept my eyes on his hands. Any second now one of those hands would fly toward my face, which was partly covered with some dreadlocks and a pirate hat. I knew I was probably too intoxicated and tired to stop it before it connected. As the back of my head hit the now blood-splattered wall, I wondered why the blonde girl didn’t listen. I wondered if she really needed someone hurt just to make herself feel better. I wondered if she needed two men fighting over her, because of her. The man with the groceries seemed to think she did. “There is a biological drive in women to promote competition in men”, the man said without blinking. “A female who promotes competition increases the chance that her children will have better genes, because she will have her children with only the most fit male. Even while married, the biological urge to find the most genetically fit father for her children often influences women to cheat on their partners.”

I asked the man if he was married. I was really just wondering why this man chose to talk to me on a crowded bus. Instead of responding to my question, he continued: “A recent survey of 1152 women found that women are most likely to have affairs at the peak of their sexual desire, which is when they are most likely to conceive. According to a 2 year study involving thousands of women, women are 5 times more likely to experience sexual desire while they are ovulating than while they are not. Women also report having orgasms much more frequently when they are cheating, as opposed to with their husbands, which is relevant because an intercourse orgasm allows a woman to retain 50%-90% of the sperm, while intercourse without orgasm only keeps 0%-50%. National blood test statistics state that 10% of children are not the children of the Father they believe to be theirs. When you consider that most illegitimate children are likely aborted, the actual percentages of women conceiving illegitimate children is likely much higher than the 10% that are born. Although it is not usually a conscious choice on the part of the mother to have an illegitimate child, they are controlled in essence by the reptilian part of their brain. Women are driven to find the best genetics possible to produce their children. This means that many women are using their husbands to provide for them financially, while their children are really those of other more genetically fit men.” Only after the man finished did he pause for breath. Then he looked at me expectantly, like I was supposed to counter his theory. I knew about the triune theory of the brain, and how most marketing analysts are convinced that the reptilian(or physical) part of the brain controls us all much more than we want to believe, but believing that women do nothing but manipulate men, even subconsciously, bothered me. If what he said was true, this knowledge should only be used as the catalyst to change.

Dr. Paul MacLean came up with a model of the triune brain. He describes your brain as divided into 3 parts. The reptile brain, the mammal brain, and the cortex. These three parts could also be called Physical, emotional, and logical. Each part has evolved for different reasons and has different drives. This is why your logical brain cannot make sense of some of the emotional feelings you experience. I have heard women say: “I don’t know what it is about him, I just like him.” Logic does not govern emotion or physical drive.

Power and domination, sex, fight or flight, personal space, intimidation from eye contact; all of these are governed by the reptilian third of our brain. At the deepest level your reptile brain often decides whether you should kill something, or have sex with it.

The mamillan, or emotional part of the brain is the part that hurts from rejection, that wants to love and be loved. It is the nurturing part of the brain, the part that feels for others, the part that seeks approval. This is also the part that sets value on objects like diamonds or family heirlooms, that logically have much less value than the value we assign to them.

The cortex, or logical part of the brain allows us to dissociate and look at something from another perspective. It is the part that works math and language. I would argue that women use the emotional part of their brain more than men, just as men use the logical side more.

When you combine the physical with the emotional brain, the result is art; a physical interpretation of emotion.

When you combine the physical with the logical brain you get science, which is a logical interpretation of the physical.

When you combine the logical with the emotional brain, you get psychology, a logical interpretation of the emotional.

Don't Ask Too Many Questions.

Men talk to women for one reason. Sex.
If a man wanted to discuss life or business issues, he would talk with another man who could better understand and offer advice. Women know this, so pretending to talk with a woman for any other reason is just delaying either sex or rejection. When you talk with a woman, she is also testing you, deciding if and when she would like to sleep with you, but she never wants to lead the interaction. Women want men in power because they can offer security, which is what all women want most.

Not being able to keep a man is every woman's greatest fear. Everything a woman does in life can be traced to this fear, just as most of men's actions can be traced to his desire for sex.

There are very few universal truths about women, but their need for security is one of them. Most men are confused by women because they listen to what words women say, instead of listening deeper to WHAT women say. Women do not often know what they want, and it is your job as a man to find out anyway.
Listen for insecurities. Does she feel unloved or unwanted? Try to fix these problems, but not by telling her what she should change. Verbalizing a solution to a woman's problems is like telling her it is her fault, and will only make her resent you.

A woman does not want to feel like the most powerful person in the room. She wants to feel like the most powerful woman. She can achieve this by showing the other women that she is secure in the care of the most powerful and dominant man in the room.

Women want to be told what to do. This does not mean men should order women to do things that they do not want to do. Some men order women around in order to make themselves feel more powerful. The man's security is dependent on the woman, which is the opposite of what the woman wants. Women can sense this insecurity. Instead, men should tell women to do things he knows she already wants to do, or take control in smaller ways. A moderately acceptable example is telling a woman to stop as she approaches a door, so that you can open it for her. Another could be telling a woman to smile or telling her to cook you a meal. It should not come out like you are ordering her around, but simply taking control of situations in which no one was clearly the leader. Expect her to follow your lead and she will follow you into the bedroom with enthusiasm; expect her to talk back and think of you as a controlling jerk, and you probably are one.

Telling other men to do things, if done in the right way, will always make women attracted to you as well. You can start with something small, like asking another man to hold your drink for a second, and work your way up. Command the respect of the men, and you will command the attraction from the women.

It is a interesting paradox to note that the more power a man lets a woman feel over him, the less she can trust in his strength, making her actually feel LESS SAFE and MORE INSECURE. She will begin to resent you for your weakness and inability to take control.
A common way of thinking for women would be: "If I can't trust you to stand up to me, how can I expect you to stand up FOR me?"

All Woman's actions can be traced to a need for security, sometimes going after rich men to become financially secure, or really fit men to feel physically protected.

Set the tone yourself, telling her what she wants to do. If you are dominant, she will want to have sex with you, but will feel slutty if she sets the pace too quickly herself. Letting her set the pace anyway will only make her feel less secure in herself. Women need to be wanted, just as men want to be needed. Women want to be pushed up against the wall and taken, but only by a man who is comfortable taking control.
Attraction is not a choice, so if you have the confident and secure vibe, women have no choice but to be attracted, just as men have no choice but to be attracted to a beautiful woman.

Don't ask too many questions of women. Anytime you think about asking a question, rephrase it into a declarative sentence. This is one of the many ways to make yourself appear more confident in yourself, and you cannot provide a woman with security until you are a leader.

Don't always (Peacock)

Practitioners of the "Mystery method" often peacock without knowing why, thereby overdoing and ruining the point of peacock theory. Peacocking is only effective if it is done with value adding routine initiators, meaning that you should wear something unique IF it has a value-adding story to it. Peacocking is also done to draw attention, but a good PUA can command the presence of most rooms anyway. Peacock theory was designed for the club. Unless it is a good conversation piece, peacocking is unnecessary in most other venues.

Women do not want tall, dark, and handsome men.
They don't.
What they want is the emotion that they believe they would feel if they were with that type of man. Any man can create this emotion, but few know how. Women live both in and for the powerful drug of emotion, men live in a world of either thought or lack of thought. Women are more audibly influenced, while men rely on visual cues. I have heard some women say that the most important sense is the ability to hear, all Men I have talked to seem to agree sight is most important. Men watch pornography while women read romance novels. They are the same thing, for different genders.

The covers of the romance novels are only attractive, muscular men to make men insecure. Body objectification is an intense emotion for most women, women's magazines objectify women much more than pornography. Women cannot help but be shown dozens of women's magazines a day in the grocery store or doctor's office, telling her how she should lose weight and buy new clothes, imprinting upon her psyche that her looks are what matter most. Men should know that their conversation and body language are most important to attract women, but there are no magazines in the stores to teach that.


CREATE EMOTION:
Do this by listening when a woman talks, and finding a part of her life that genuinely interests you. Something you can connect with. Learn to take risks and tease women in a funny way. If they are laughing, they can't be insulted, and they will then seek your approval. Compliment her rarely, and only on the things she wants to be complimented on. Attractive women want to be complimented on an aspect of their personality or a learned skill, rather than on the same body feature every other man has made a reference to. I once heard an attractive woman say "All men think that what they say is unique."

Find what she was most insecure about as a young adolescent or in high school. The imprint her insecurity had on her as a child will stay with her long into adulthood, and if you compliment that which she most wanted to improve, it will be a much more emotionally powerful experience for her.
Also ROLE PLAY, but don't work too hard trying to make her happy, Know this:
Women are competing for YOU.
Watch how women dress, put on makeup, and behave. They are competitive with each other, all wanting to look the best. Why? Because they know that the best looking women get the most powerful men, The men who can take control. Women put on makeup, buy expensive clothes, get their hair and nails done, exercise, and go on laboring diets so they can look their absolute best. For you.
So do your part: Control the room. Dominant, not domineering. Tell yourself you own it. Tell yourself that all the other men in the room are your employees, that you are their leader. Know that all the women are having fantasies with you in their minds. Bring them into your own reality. Make women work for your approval.

I do not brag about my sexual conquests, and I don't need a woman or sex to make me complete. I will only admit to sleeping with a woman once I know she has bragged about it to her friends. In this way I show my respect for her privacy, and by not making a big deal out of it, while she tells everyone she knows, it reinforces that I am the prize.

Men look at taller, more muscular men and assume that's what women want, but women seem to go home more often with scrawny guys. Women DO want to be taken, but not by someone who is truly intimidating and might make her "no" mean "yes" after a couple beers, so don't stress about being short or scrawny, concentrate on how to give women the emotion of power they want.


Everyone sets their own market price.

Dance Club Game

Dance Club Game:

DO NOT:
Buy women drinks,
hold your own drink up near your face or chest as if you are hiding behind it,
Grind on random women,
Be quiet,
Drink too much,
Fail to address and impress the girl's friends(because they WILL cock block you)


Many men learn the fundamental basics of how to work club game, but still act too needy, unknowingly. At first, you may not have the confidence to dance with random women, which means you should, to overcome your fears, but after you do, it might be best to stop.

I have talked to tons of women who are creeped out by random guys grinding on them, and much more intrigued by the guys who don't.

Confidence is everything: If you are not dancing with women because you are not confident enough to, maybe you should spend a few weeks getting comfortable with dancing with random girls. Women can tell if you have the confidence to dance but choose not to, instead of simply not being confident enough to approach them on the dance floor. As with every pick-up scenario, inner game is most important.

When in a busy bar or club, with loud music and dancing, most guys look like total choads. They go onto the dance floor and try to grind on as many attractive girls as they can. It feels good at the time, but you end up not going home with any of them, except for the occasional totally drunk one. This is not good game. Good game is not needy, not needing her to fulfill you. It comes from a place of confidence in yourself.

You are the prize.
If a girl does and says all the right things to you, you MIGHT let her fuck you.
Do not grind on the girls on the dance floor unless you brought them there and have already created attraction. Let them dance around you, concentrate on having a good time yourself, and with your friends. If a girl grinds on you, you don't need to push her away, but in some cases, it couldn't hurt if you acted a little put off at first. Make them work for it, your mental state should never be effected by the women's reactions.

Picking up women

1. Attractive women are common, so don't care too much about how a single interaction goes.

There are about 4 million babies born in the US every year. Over 2 million of those babies are female. Assuming the majority of those babies reach 18 years old, there are about 5,480 women who become legal every day. Although some certainly die before then, the birth rates are only increasing in the US, and more and more women also move to America after they are born. Therefore we will keep this number, and use it as my first rule of pickup: Women are common. Attractive women are common. Almost 5,500 women reach the legal age of consent every day, so don't waste too much mental or physical energy with one woman. She is less than 1/50th of a percent of the new available women each day. Who cares what she thinks or does? There are too many more women out there to even begin to grow concerned about a single interaction.

2. Women want to be taken.

They do. All of them. They want YOU to grab them by their hair with one hand, push them up against the wall with your other, and take them. They don't want to be made to feel as if sex was their idea. This is why women drink alcohol: Plausible Deniability. They want to be able to tell their friends that they were only going to have a drink with you, and that the one drink led to three or four, until they started to feel woozy. Then they tell their friends that she only went with you back to your house to watch a TV show, and that your living room TV was small, so you both watched it in your room where the big screen was. She wants to be able to tell her friends that one thing simply led to another, when in reality, she wanted to get laid that night from the beginning. Women drink alcohol to have an excuse, and not feel like a slut. This brings me to my third point:


3. Seduction only brings out the NATURAL nature of women.

Women in countries with less media and culture influence than the US have women who seem much more openly sexual. If you travel overseas, you see that America has some of the coldest and least flirtatious women. Women in other cultures act more sexual because it is biologically natural. Our culture suppresses our women into feeling like sluts, so they have to drink and make excuses for sleeping with men. Many pussy men feel as though using seduction techniques is manipulative and wrong, but it is not. Anything I teach you is simply a way to get women to become more comfortable with you and themselves, and open up to what is natural biologically. It is not a "trick".

4. Attraction is not a choice.

You cannot logically convince a woman to like you, any more than she can convince you that she is attractive if she is not. But women can become attracted to you based on what you say, how you act, and the confidence and vibe you exhume, and in that respect, we can influence them to be attracted to us at will. Women do not have as much control over their attractiveness, as it is mostly biological, depending on their physical looks. What I mean is this: as men we can control our attractiveness to a much greater degree, and if we do everything correctly, women cannot NOT be attracted. In the same way, we as men cannot CHOOSE to not be attracted to a super hot woman, we simply are.

5. Role play

Women love games. Some of the best ways to build attraction and connection with a woman is to role play. This could include "Adopting her as your new little sister", and treating her like a little kid, or you could simply role play that she is your secretary, assistant, or girlfriend. I have used the line "For the next 5 minutes, I'm going to adopt you as my new little sister" many times with good success. Putting a time limit on it makes her more comfortable because she knows when it will be over, just as creating a time constraint when approaching a woman also puts her at ease. This means when you speak to her for the first time, work in the fact that you have to leave soon, or that you will only be a minute because you have to do something with your friends. This not only makes her at ease, not worried that you, as a stranger, are going to follow her around all night, but it also make her listen more closely to whatever you say. This is also used in business, giving someone a false time constraint always makes them listen up more closely. Always tell her the kinds of things you will do together as part of the role playing game, and treat her just as you would be expected to. Games like this create connection, and are kind of like an inside joke which in a sense isolates the two of you from the rest of the bar, club, or house party.

Sunday, October 15, 2006

legalize the duel.

I've got a hankering for legalizing the Duel. Now I have no cabood to skedaddle to the hoosegow, but I do think it's a humdinger of an idea. If there is a come-uppance of dueling, people would go out of their way to be polite and respectful. Rude people would get into duels and be killed, people with gumption would videotape it and make a T.V. show, and we would once again have respect for others in society. It is tomfoolery to believe that our society is more highfalutin or hunkey-dory than it was a few hundred years ago. If the criminality of our society gets you hogflustered, and you want to stop it, challenge the next rabblerouser to a duel or bout of fisticuffs. If he is discombobulated, afraid you will go hog-wild on him, make the duel set for the next morning. Now he does get to pick the weapon, as he was the one being challenged, but with any luck you will still beat him, and he will either be dirt-napping or go to the hospital. If dueling was legalized, this world would be a much nicer place, and we could enjoy our vittles in peace. And one thing's for sure: without this mollycoddle of hodge-podge gullywashers boondoggling us, criminality wouldn't lollygag to the calaboose.

October 15th, 2006: taken from my old blog

In the news yesterday, there was a story about how a woman insulted a man, and the man attacked her, leaving her with scratches on her face. I cannot believe how far our society has degenerated in the last 50 years, and I think I know why.

Men are becoming like girls.

I don't mean this in a demeaning way toward women, I respect women and would never do anything to harm one. But men and women are different. Biologically they will never act the same, and the pansy guys being brought up by their single mothers in today's society are not taught this. They are told that they should help with house chores, that the wife is expected to work, and emotional and femminine guys are often the one's being emulated. Guys often wear femminine clothing now, and more are wearing make-up, going to tanning salons, and other crap. If I see a pair of guys wearing white shorts, I don't know for sure if they are gay or not anymore.

Guy's don't have a femminine side, they are men, just as dog's don't have a cat side. They are different animals, so to speak. I believe that men should never speak disrespectfully of women, as so many do in today's society, and that they should never physically engage one, no matter what she did. In the news story, the man scratched the woman. Now we are even fighting like girls? How DARE we. Long ago men seen doing something like this would be immediately killed in a duel. I say bring the duel back, it's about time. We have not evolved past the duel, we have simply degenerated to disrespecting other people without thought, or even physically harming women.

In the 1800's, many books talked about self-respect. Now we talk about self-esteem. What is the difference between the two? Self respect is important as it makes one live a respectable life, be a good role model, and take responsibility for their actions, while good self-esteem is possible without any of these good traits.

This is not entirely the men's fault. We were taught to believe that men and women should be treated equally in every way. This was done by the women's rights and femminist movement. Many of these women hated men for abuse they suffered as a child, and therefore gave no men any respect. Then divorce rates shot up, with men not loving their wives due to the lack of respect and distain that they were being looked upon with, and more and more single mothers were raising their sons with no father figure to teach them how women should be treated. Men reason that if women are the same as men, they should be treated equal in every way. We still don't treat women exactly the same as men, such as casually punching someone in the arm as a greeting, or insulting each other for fun, but that is coming.

Don't get me wrong: women are EQUAL to men, but different. They should be treated with more respect, as they are not as capable at defending themselves, and I think that the man of the family should be the only one having to work in the corporate world, and that the woman should be the one making decisions relating to the home. Sure, some women can physically defend themselves and provide enough money to comfortably support a family, but those are the ugly ones. Whoops, I didn't mean to type that out-loud. See how this is even effecting ME? Men have excepted the idea of treating women the same as men because it is EASY for them to do. They no longer have to make enough money to completely support the family, they don't have to watch their language around women, and they can take out their anger on them when they get angry.

Men biologically want and need respect. This is a deciding factor in most men's careers. They also naturally want power. Women are biologically inclined to want and need security and love. As women become more like men, men become more like women, and everyone loses.