The Two Ways

Art is a physical representation of emotion, and can be expressed in countless different ways. I propose that for some people, their very appearance is their art form. This form of art is more common for women than it is for men, spending hours a day trying to express their own idea of physical beauty through the way they dress or the makeup they put on. This often subconscious art form is often superficial, but it could also be very deep, and is art nevertheless. Whether they are aware of it or not, some of these “Shallow” people are artistic geniuses, capturing the very essence of emotion in the way they look, which with our limited language can be too difficult for most to capture in any other conventional way.

Good art is a new interpretation, or retelling, of an emotion that the viewer of the art can connect with. Yet most women simply copy other women’s styles. They modify themselves in a way to make them more evolutionarily appealing from a sexual perspective, but they lose their own uniqueness. A truly beautiful woman is one who makes herself physically appealing in a unique way.

I see many attractive women, who have good genetics and should be appealing from an evolutionary perspective, but I am now only attracted to those who have something unique about them or express a new perspective on their idea of physical beauty. Therefore, I believe many people are not only attracted to beautiful people from an evolutionary/sexual perspective; they are attracted to the emotion they get when they connect with a piece of art. Men are visual, so the art they most easily connect with is visual. Women are more verbally based, and are then more easily attracted to the emotion they receive through the way a man talks.

Deepen your perspective to appreciate all art forms. A person giving you attention solely based on the way you look is not necessarily shallow; he or she might truly connect with the emotion you are subconsciously portraying in yourself.

Even if a woman doesn’t believe her physical appearance is the most important part of her, she might feel socially influenced to “Play along” with the rest of society. Because attractive people receive attention at a young age from the opposite sex, their social status increases. It is difficult for men to be deep when they are young, so they admire a woman for the easiest and most superficial part of her. This makes it difficult for these disadvantages types of men or women to become anything other than emotionally shallow. Yet they are walking art pieces. It is both beautiful and tragic.

2 ways:

1. Beautiful in the physically/genetically/sexually/survival of your gene type of way.

2. Admiring their perspective on what their idea of beauty, or even satire on cultural expectation of beauty is, seeing their personality from the way they modify themselves.

Do we live in a evil world?

Do we live in a evil world? I don’t think so. Our bias of how the world works determines everything about how we live our lives. I choose to believe I live in a great world. I trust too much and I like everyone I know before I meet them. I leave my car door unlocked.

At times, items are stolen from my car or house. I could spend all my time worrying about how I can make my possessions more secure, and assume everyone is a thief, but instead I write it off as a one time incident. Perhaps this is naïve, but perception is reality. I live in a safe country filled with awesome people.

People like to be liked, but only if it is in context. If someone came up to me on the street and expressed how much they liked me, without having met me before, I would find it extremely weird. But men do this all the time to women. Liking a woman before you even meet her simply based on the way she looks is much more than a display of low status, objectification, and inexperience. It seems weird to the woman because there is no context or reason for your interest.

I like all men and women before I meet them. I enjoy listening to people’s life stories and I truly believe everyone is amazing. I find most people’s flaws endearing. But people only want to be liked if there is a reason for it, and most women are uncomfortable when people show interest in them because they don’t even like themselves, and assume the only reason the guy is talking to them is for their body. In many cases, they are right.

If you want to meet women, don’t try to get them to like you. If you convey that you are a leader of men and sought after by other women you will get a few women to jump all over you, but a much more genuine way to attract women is by allowing them to like themselves.

Like I said, I find everyone amazing, but the reality is, most people are insecure and become uncomfortable with what they believe to be unusual amounts of attention. They want to earn your attention, so help them earn it by finding something about them that truly fascinates you. Start the conversation by asking how they spend most of their time. This is similar to the “Where do you work” question but it does not assume they have a job. Perhaps she is a full time student on scholarship, or has inherited a large amount of money and doesn’t have to work. By simply asking how she spends most of her time it comes across as nonjudgmental and separates you from people who’s only interest in meeting someone is how they can profit from it. Asking how she spends most of her time will also likely lead into what she ENJOYS doing, and when she describes what she likes to do, ask he why she enjoys it.

When she starts to explain why she has a passion for animals, for example, listen carefully for the descriptive words she uses to describe the FEELING she gets. Use the same descriptive words yourself to create a connection, and ask what it is about those feelings she enjoys most. This will cause her to start feeling those feelings, and make her relaxed and in a good mood, later associating those feelings with what you were saying/doing.

Most guys escalate the conversation or sexual tension when the conversation is at a high point, but they often do it at one of THEIR high points. When a guy says something to make a woman laugh, or has just impressed her with something, he should not escalate. From the woman’s perspective, she has not done anything to deserve his attention. Instead, the man has just conveyed that he is seeking her approval. You are not seeking her approval, you are higher status than anyone else in the room, and are simply trying to find out if there is more to her than just an attractive face.

Escalating at your high point in the conversation is not the same as her high point, even if she is laughing or telling you how awesome you are. Remember, if you show interest in her before she has said anything to show her personality, it will appear as if you only care about her body, and will make her more insecure and worried that men don’t care about anything else. She will associate those negative feelings with you and will perceive you as a insecure approval-seeker. Instead, create a connection with her by using her emotion-triggering words, and find something about her that actually impresses you. After she shares whatever it is about her that you like, say you like it, and escalate immediately. Attractive women are extremely common, and she knows it. Attractive women instead would much rather you show interest in her because of a personality trait or passion. Beauty will fade and women know this. Not being able to keep a man is women’s biggest evolutionary fear, and if she knows you like her for more than just the way she looks, she will become more confident.

This helps you in many ways. She will start to feel good about herself and associate those feelings with you. She will also realize you like her for who she is, and she will lower her insecurities and inhibitions when she is with you. You will leave her a better person than when you found her, and she will go crazy with you in the bedroom when she learns to truly like herself for who she is. Women feel sexiest about themselves when they realize there is something about them that is turning you on. This isn’t to say you shouldn’t compliment the way a woman looks AFTER you get her. Despite what they say, most women enjoy to occasionally be objectified, just not by random people on the street who don’t like them for any other reason.

In conclusion, if you truly like someone you meet, find a reason. Not for yourself, but for them. If you can show high status, create a connection, and at the same time convey interest in them about what they like in themselves, you can attract any woman in the world.

Addiction to Emotion

One national study said that 34% of American women would absolutely consider INTENTIONALLY having a child without even a husband or boyfriend in their life. Many women believe that even if women cannot find a man to help them raise children, they should be allowed the right to have children anyway. I am not discussing the women who attempt (and often succeed) at convincing a man to marry them because they intentionally became pregnant. I am talking instead about women who do not even intend on finding a man, but go to sperm banks. Around 30% of all clients at sperm banks are single women with no prospects of finding a boyfriend.



Young women without loving fathers attempt to fulfill their need for men's love in other ways. Women without fathers are much more likely to become addicts, prostitutes, and single parents themselves. All women are addicts to emotional highs. That which traumatizes us in childhood becomes a scource of attraction to us as we reach puberty. If a child is raised without attention, respect, or love, the child will act out his or her aggression in various ways. Men often act out their insecurities with violence, which gives them a feeling of control they were never able to experience as a child growing up in a chaotic and unstable childhood. Men's fear of a lack of control leads them to be domineering and aggressive. They act out in this way to gain respect.



Women act out their insecurities in other ways, which makes sense because men and women are often insecure about different issues. While men are primarily insecure about their dominance, control, and freedom, women are insecure about their ability to keep a man. Every action a woman does can be traced to this insecurity in one form or another. The importance of finding and keeping a man ingenerally a pivital part in raising children. While raising children is a biological drive in all women, some are driven to raising children for another reason as well: Selfishness.
Young mothers raising children in fatherless households know that the environment is not optimal to raise a child, but they do it anyway. They were often themselves raised in fatherless homes, or homes in which the father was not a good role model. Because of this they seek approval from other men in their life and when the attention (for it is rarely true love that men give women, usually only lust) does not become enough to satisfy the woman's need for the emotional high of receiving love, they want to have a baby. They believe this baby will finally give them the unconditional love that they have been searching for their entire life. Instead of being concerned for what is best for the baby, women often have children for a selfish reason: To fulfill a need for love in their life.



If you are a single woman who is neither interesting, attractive, or nice enough for a man to want to marry you, you should not be passing your inferior DNA. You suck, and I don't want any of your crappy kids running around also needing the love from a man they never got as a child. If you feel you really need a child, the best option is to adopt. I believe a loving single mother can do a better job raising a child than foster homes, and instead of having a child only to fulfil the woman's need for love, adopting a child is not as selfish an act.

Men would never dream of raising a child if they were single, because men do not place as high a value on love like women do. If a single man with no prospects of marriage was feeling unfulfilled, he would be much more likely to just fly to Las Vegas and buy a few prostitutes.

I do not blame women for this, it is the men's fault who origionally did not give their daughters the unconditional fatherly love they needed, but women also need to realize that continuing the cycle of selfishness is only creating a less fulfilled society. Women have complete control over whether they choose to have children or not, men have no say in the matter.

Techniques and Lines to Pick up Women.

Getting women isn’t getting lucky. We all get the same amount of luck. We don’t all get the same amount of women.

Adam Carolla has often mentioned an interesting observation regarding women. The nervous looser creepy guy in the workplace cannot get away with anything. If he even looks at a woman or comments that she has a nice shirt, she will report him to human resources for sexual harassment. In contrast, the coolest guy in the office can get away with saying anything he wants. He could walk in and comment that it looks like she got laid over the weekend while slapping her on the ass, and she will just laugh and like him even more. What you say matters much less than how you are perceived by your peers. Women cannot help but be attracted to men with a higher social status. Instead of always worrying about what lines to say, become the cool guy in the office.

Take some time to make sure you like yourself. Do you consider yourself a good friend, a funny person, or just someone cool to hang around? If you do, who loses if you don’t get to know someone? They do. So do them a favor and get to know them better. You are not putting yourself at risk for rejection. If a woman rejects you, it is her that loses, and as trite as it sounds, a woman cannot reject you, she can only reject your approach. She doesn't know you enough to reject you, and your approach is easy to change.

If you are the most awesome guy in the world, you don't need any lines or techniques, but I'll share a couple anyway. The best techniques are those that show you are almost too comfortable in all situations. The following techniques are good examples:

If a woman has really good posture, mimic it by pulling your shoulders back and sitting up perfectly straight. Then tell her she really needs to work on her posture.

Give her a nickname soon after meeting her, if you can’t think of one based on something unique about her, just pick the Disney princess she most closely resembles. Sparky is also a kinda funny nickname.

Treat her like a bratty little sister. Assume you can do no wrong. If you screw something up, laugh at it, don’t get flustered or overly apologetic. Just don’t overly tease women with low self esteem or a shy personality.

Swat her with something small like a straw or newspaper, and only when there is a reason to.

Don’t give her your full attention. It shows you are too invested in the outcome. Start conversations and don’t be afraid to walk away and come back later.

Anytime you hang out with a woman, she will probably make a minor error or faux pas. Complain about her mistake in a far too serious way. Bring it back up multiple times like it is the most serious thing ever, obviously joking(or are you?). Remind her how she just ruined her chances with you.

Pretend you are the super attractive woman and she is just another pussy guy seeking your approval. Misinterpret everything she says this way.

Comment on her subtle body language cues in a teasing way. Women are used to noticing these minor details, so commenting on them yourself shows you understand. Interpret them all as interest in yourself.

Treat any emotional outburst (which is probably a test) as cute. Cute enough to be kinda funny. Many times women test men this way subconsciously to see if he can keep his composure, or if he will turn into a wussy guy. Other times it isn't even subconscious. Don't fail these tests.

Start questions with “On a scale of 1 to 10", you will find out much more about her.

Personas, Beliefs, Confidence, and Faith in Relationships

People believe what they want to believe. Beliefs are formed when an idea is reinforced either by logic, physical or empirical data, or by how the idea makes us feel. The three areas of our brain are logical, physical, and emotional. The feeling a person gets when they hear an idea usually determines if they will turn the idea into a belief. If their world makes more sense or feels better with the new idea, people are convinced that the idea must be correct. Truth changes.

speak directly to the person, not the persona. Everyone has a persona that they have constructed because of past social experiences and expectations. When you meet someone for the first time, you meet the persona they want you to meet, which is usually very different from who the person really is. Comedians are broken people, so they create jokes to deal with life. Beautiful women are the ones most concerned with how they look. Aggressive women are often very submissive in bed. Their aggression is their persona to keep from getting hurt by those around them. You cannot listen to the words women say, it is a persona. Look deeper for the reason behind what they are saying. Connect with the person and pretend you don’t even see the persona. Her persona is not real, it is a socially constructed defensive barrier.

Everyone knows women want men who have confidence, but what is confidence? Confidence literally means “With faith.” When a scientist randomly divided his lab rats into two groups, they were physically the same. He put each rat from the first group individually into a tub of water made opaque with milk. There was a ledge just underwater and out of sight that the rats could rest on if they found it, and all the rats found it before they were pulled out of the water and put back into their cages. The second group was put individually into the same tub but without the underwater support ledge to rest on. They were kept in for the same amount of time as the other rats, and then put back in their cage. The scientist then put each rat from both groups into the tub without the support. He put them in one by one and noted the time when their noses slipped underwater. (He saved all the rats before they died) The scientist found that the rats who were first placed in the tank with the underwater ledge were able to keep swimming for twice as long as the ones who were never placed in the tub with the underwater ledge.

This makes having faith much more than just an abstract concept.
Faith keeps us alive.

Topics to talk about on dates

Stay away from logic. You cannot logically convince a woman to feel attracted to you. Talk about scandal, drama, or conflict, but don’t get too serious about controversial topics like politics or religion, unless it is just to make fun of a group you know both of you disagree with. Look at other people on dates and try to analyze them and their relationship as a game of psychology (why do they like each other, etc). Become a renaissance man, and know the stories behind the things around you. Think of cocky statements as comebacks to uncomfortable situations, and ways to rephrase them in a funny way. Never complain about having bad luck, or about being single. You can get the answer to almost any question if you act a little suspicious, like she is acting suspicious and you are trying to get to the bottom of the mystery. If she has an interesting ring, hold her hand as you look at it, but don’t hold her hand too long. “Let me see your hands for a second” Lean in to kiss her, and just before you do, stop. Lean back and say “Not yet.” Two steps forward, one step back. Create anticipation, gently pulling her hair, smelling the back of her neck, or lightly kissing or biting her neck. Always end the date first, on a high point. The quality of the interaction is much more important than the length of the interaction.

Creating Spontenuity and Eliminating Self Limiting Beliefs

Be in the moment. Don’t imagine scenarios and how they could go wrong. This creates a limiting belief in yourself not even grounded in reality. If you approach 100 women and all of them seem to not like you, that should be a catalyst for you to change what you are doing, but imagining something will happen wrong before it does only continues to imprint your mind with limiting beliefs. This decreases your faith in yourself, and therefore, your confidence in your abilities.

You cannot know everything that is going on in other people’s relationships. Do not isolate yourself from the rest of the world by creating false realities. You don’t know everything about the relationships you have observed, you only see what you let yourself see. For instance, guys often see what they believe to be wealthy men with attractive women. But if the guy is wealthy, he might always see tall guys with attractive women. If he is tall, he might believe women only like funny guys, or some other attribute or characteristic he wishes he has more of. Instead of having a clear grasp on reality, he transposes his own limiting beliefs about himself onto his world. He creates alternate realities that further verify his limiting beliefs. Talking to a man about what women like in men says much more about the kind of man he wishes he was rather than what is really going on in the world. If he believes women only like men with money, for instance, it is much more likely that he wants more money than it is that his belief is grounded in truth. He makes his own limiting belief true for himself by putting men with different strengths than himself up on a pedestal. To change these limiting beliefs you should ask yourself a few questions:

Where will I be in 20 years if I continue to believe this false reality?

Are there any men who have attracted women without the asset I don’t have(money, height, or whatever you believe women want from men that you cannot or do not have)?

Find examples of the opposite of your limiting belief, and concentrate on those instead.

We know women like men who are spontaneous. If you can find out her days off work, it would be better to call her on those days and make plans for that day rather than planning it out ahead of time and asking her a week or so early. Have other things planned to do that day, of course, but make yourself available on the days you know a woman will be free, so you can make spontaneous plans with her. Making plans are for losers. If you want to hang out with a girl, do it immediately “What are you doing right now?” It’s always on.